Here it goes:
Spoiler Warning: This is a very self serving post. Apologies I used a lot of "I". I was writing this somewhere based on my experiences, not for this site. I thought It would be worthwhile to share here. I want to try rewriting it back, but got no time ^_^
There are people I disagree with, with some people come up and face me to tell me that they do. It is ok. I don’t mind. I am happy on who I am and I believe what is reasonable to maintain what I have now I will uphold it. I have big aspirations in life and never a day I stopped telling myself I will be one and never I stopped acting like one. I may be assertive, I may be a bully but people will agree that the longer they stay with me I change the way they walk their lives for the better.
Some things I will surely lie so we will not end up disagreeing. I know what society expects from an OFW. Pasensya po, hindi kami namumulot ng pera kung saan man kami naroroon.
1. Friend, pautang naman o!
I have been in the business of lending years back. I had gains and losses in the business and I am quite efficient running it. I stopped running the business for the reasons I hate asking people money when they don’t. So it would be a wrong Idea to ask anything from me now when I have stopped lending to people. If we are friends and not lending you anything will break up our relationship, I rather break our relationship now than lending you money if it would be difficult for you to pay me back. Same thing will still happen, friendship will still be broken if it does. So live with it. I don’t like lending people money. Period.
My advice, live your life according to your means and do not try spending into something thinking that other people will take care of your expenses in case you can’t pay.
Anyway, If you do live a life beyond your means, stop it. You will end up borrowing more from your friends, and the more you don’t pay you will unceremoniously lose them one by one. It is more costly to gain people’s trust than losing it. Like a rare commodity, so as your friends. Sooner or later when you run out of people to help, you'll surely be in deep s***.
2. Oi, Nasaan pasalubong ko?
I have a golden rule on my aircraft baggage. 7 kilos handcarry and 15 kilos for check-in. If your things can fit in. Good. If not, sorry. Anyway, I hate breaking promises to people that is why nobody has any idea when I will be back home except from my mom. If the stuff I would bring is available to the destination I will go. Likely I will leave it. I am not a fan of balikbayan boxes either. It costs $100 and at that amount can fly myself roundtrip when budget airlines go on sale. I give free hugs and kisses though. ^_^
I don’t like the way that neighbors are expecting something from you when you show up as if you owe them something, especially if they never were good neighbors anyway. You give something to one of them other people will be jealous.
3. Oi Libre naman dyan o!
There is nothing grand when I show up in my hometown. I don’t like spending for someone else’s booze. Sorry, it is not healthy. I have seen how society patronizes OFW’s that gives grand parties when they go back home and they should be good examples. Pista ba ito? Sorry I don’t subscribe to that. Most of the times I am already at my hometown it takes time for people to learn that I am actually there, and when they do, I already left.
4. Uy, nasa <insert your country here> ka pala. Yung <insert relation here> ko pala ay <insert their course or job here>, baka meron naman trabaho sa company mo?
Ok first things first. I work in an <inert your career here> field. If it is not related to my field, I really have no idea what to give you. I do give pointers on how to get a job abroad. Very detailed instructions, but I will leave your decision on how you will do it, yet, bear in mind that all life changing ventures does come with a cost and no one is privy to my wallet. I went abroad without anyone’s assistance. I gambled and I tried hard to find my way here both by sheer determination and relatively huge sum of money. I will show you the way if you are really determined to do it. I cannot help you in your finances and accommodation though.
5. Heart stabbing but very classic one-liners.
a. Ang damot mo naman!
b. Hindi mo madadala ang pera mo sa langit!
c. Masamang mahalin ang pera...
a. Heard this a couple of times especially if you won’t budge giving out something. Anyway, I do pay close attention to hygiene especially when I did have a long battle with athlete’s foot. You will never get to borrow my shoes, nippers or nail cutters. I will watch you screaming in pain while you’re having an ingrown nail. Tell me I am evil. I don’t care. Screw you, you will never get my nipper. Nah ah. Buy these yourself. You will climb a mountain to borrow my power tools, hammer, tape, pliers, screwdrivers, air pump, metal grinders, computer... oh well. too long to mention. I would rather say everything that I cannot watch over. These things never leave my side because most likely I would run a mile fetching these from the people who borrowed and when things get spoiled you’ll likely going to hear from me. Better not, buy these things yourself. Try investing these things for yourself. I hate borrowing that’s why I bought these for myself.
b. Sad reasoning, I don’t think I will die anytime soon, and neither you will, and in most case, you will repeat the same words to other people while you never spend time fixing your own life. I still got a long way to go to live on planet earth and whatever I have now will go to spend for a difficult time of retirement. Nobody can predict the future I agree, but whatever the future holds, you will still spend or others will have to spend for you. Mind you, even your coffin is not free and neither does your burial site. Truth to be told that, really, you cannot bring your wealth in heaven, but please, do not leave this world with the people you left behind getting nothing or rather, broke. Change the mindset. Even if you die, you will still need money.
c. Agreed! You should not love money. I had a couple of arguments and they shot this back at me. Oh please. I am not in love with my wallet. The moment I receive my salary I spend it right away. Within minutes my entire salary for the month is dissolved. I put it in the stock market or other investments and I don’t give a damn whether it will lose value or win. I don’t keep my money under the pillow nor let it sit on the bank. I spend it either for my experience or education and both are really expensive. If you think experience and education is expensive, try ignorance.
I strongly believe I don’t love money because if I do, I will be a slave of it. I am not enslaved by my assets because I own them, I am paid in full. I don’t have unpaid monthly credit on my card, no mortgage on my car, house and other properties. Debt free life is fun I tell you. Owning things is a lot more fun than things you have owning you instead.
If you are buried in credit, try to work hard to unshackle yourself from it. The harder the credit situation you have and yet you will be able to win it, you will surely reap the rewards. Masamang mahalin ang pera, hindi mo dapat mahalin ang pera. Pero hindi masamang mahalin ka ng pera at mahal ng pera ang taong marunong humawak.
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